Opinions Are Not Facts

One of the lessons I learnt the second time around was the importance of not sharing too much about your personal life with your friends. Sounds contradictory, doesn’t it? If you can’t trust your own friends and their opinions, then who can you trust? They are the ones that know you best and they will be the ones who will be able to tell you what is right for you, uh, right?

Well, not necessarily.

Each human being is different. It is what makes being a part of the human race special. Although a person could have a majority of similarities, no two people are alike, no matter how long their friendship or relationship is with each other. Although a person may be the best point of reference for the longest time, sometimes, especially when it comes to relationships, advice from friends may either be the best or worst type of blessing. Or meddling. In some cases. When people can’t seem to stick their noses out of your business.

The reason why I had to express this is mostly due to the fact that I was bombarded with a slew of questions last week about my situation. Granted, when it is long distance with two people of different faiths, it invites a lot of curious questions. I honestly don’t mind questions. But what I do mind are comments that begin with, “He should,” or “Why isn’t he?”. Especially when my answer to those questions and comments will begin to sound like justifications.

The thing is, no one has the right to question the nature of your relationship when the parties involved have nothing to complain about. Every couple has their own way of handling their own relationship. Maybe some couples like to talk a lot and are extremely affectionate. Maybe some couples like to talk less and are somewhat less affectionate. What may work for one couple might not necessarily work for another. It is not what the public perceives as normal but whether the two individuals are having their needs met by each other.

I’m still trying to figure out the best way to handle the questions that I am not comfortable with. Personally, I understand when people feel that they need to know especially when on paper, it just seems like it should not and cannot work. However, when the innocent questions begin to turn accusatory, it is no surprise that most people will choose to simply not talk about their relationships instead.

So trust your gut. That feeling you have in your heart and in your belly that might go against what everyone says? Learn to trust that feeling and hold on to your convictions. Pay attention to what the universe is trying to tell you because once you do, you will learn to be at peace with your decisions and actions and you will realize that you really do not have anyone to answer to except yourself.

Advertisements

2 thoughts on “Opinions Are Not Facts

  1. I can so relate to this post. Your friends always think they have your best interests at heart, but sometimes they just don’t understand. Or they are close-minded without even realizing it. And sometimes when everything looks great on paper, it just doesn’t workout….and vice versa. Love is funny….and you just have to trust yourself!

    Speaking from experience, I chose to not talk about my relationship anymore because I felt like I always had to defend it and him — it was exhausting! To be honest, I don’t know how you should handle those questions….maybe just share this post with them!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. You’re absolutely right about just how exhausting it gets when you begin to find yourself defending him to other people, especially when you realize that they are measuring him against their supposed standards when he should be measured against your standards! I’ve chosen to not talk about my relationships anymore either because it just attracts too much drama and negativity sometimes.

      Usually, friends do mean well but you’re right about how people just don’t understand and how it makes it worse because when you realize that this one friend isn’t as supportive, it is human nature to seek out another friend who will support it. And when that doesn’t work out, we’ll end up trying to find one more and this starts an unhealthy cycle where there are 50 people in the relationship instead of 2.

      I hope we’ll figure out a way to handle those questions, someday!

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s